The blame, the shame, the guilt. How did you get yourself raped? Why were you wearing those clothes? Why were you that drunk? Why were you alone with that boy? Was it consensual and you are trying to cover it up? Good girls don’t get raped. Good girls are in their rooms. Good girls cover up their bodies. Good girls save themselves for their husbands and guard their purity for god.
All of that is the apathy, and sympathy we hold so close to our hearts. Blaming the victim, telling them how they brought it on themselves. Making their suffering all the worse by making them the ones who deserved it, and doing so with religious doctrines. What utter garbage. What sick and demented points of view. Why should all women not be safe? Safe to be free, walk naked, live in peace and never fear.
From the Mullah in Australia who claims meat left uncovered will lead cats to eating it, to the Atkins of the world who tell us our bodies shut down rape, the world is full of indoctrinated, and stupid, stupid men. Now that is not to say every man is stupid. Just the ones who believe rape is a woman’s fault. Ones who claim that all men are born rapists, ready to rape at will, seething sexual deviants controlled only by the clothing that covers a woman so completely that nothing but her eyes show.
The twisted logic of these men goes as far as believing even two eyes showing can lead a man to temptation. It sounds like a joke, but its not. In fact it is a clear sickness breeding in religions all around the world, under the guise of love for their women. Love in the form of mental torture, and physical hostages. The claim that women make men slip from their purity, cause their sexual aggression, and lead them astray from god. Every bit of the burden is placed squarely on the woman and her chastity, even the family honor depends on how the women behave.
Rape has been the justification for honor killings, girls being beaten, stoned, abused further, forced to marry the rapist. All the while overlooking her suffering, and her pain. Never acknowledging that she is a human who was violated. The most important part being she was violated. Religion takes ownership of the vagina, never giving it the right to be the possession of the owner, but a religious artifact which is only placed in the trust of the woman for use in procreating more religious offspring. At no point in any doctrine does a woman have the complete and total ownership of her own body, so when she is violated, it is an offense against the religion by her for not guarding the sacred vessel of life against intruders.
What of the intruders though? All they have to do is claim overwhelming seduction, and suddenly society is ready to forgive their weakness, even if it was another human being that was violated, hurt, humiliated. A man is often seen as the victim of his penis, and the lustful urge to use it at any given time. He is seen as a natural born rapist, and sinner, easily led astray by women and their seductive bodies. Instead of being held to the standard that he is in full control of himself and the use of his penis. In more religious areas of the world where chastity is held high, women are raped more, and more often. Society holds no sympathy for the women, not as it does for men. Men who rape, in religious countries, when punished, if punished, often serve very little time in jail. They are often treated as victims. They are seen as martyrs against wild women, and heralded for their putting them in their place through rape.
This toxic hate for women has to come to an end. It is time to put men in charge of not raping women, and stop blaming the victims. Why do we not teach men it is their responsibility to never lay a hand on a woman when it is not welcome? Why must we teach women to fear being raped? This has shown to be ineffective, and even damaging, but the religious continue to practice this bad behavior by the thousands. Many women sit in Afghani prisons because they were raped, many women have died from being brutally raped. Many women suffer in silence from their rapes. It is a devastating, horrible thing to face someone brutalizing your body, stripping you of your authority and ownership of it. Even state laws have been put in place allowing for state sanctioned rape. A gang rape in India recently led to the death of a young girl, after a bar was rammed into her uterus, which tore through and into her abdomen bruising and tearing her intestines.
How much more do women have to suffer? How much more can we take before we get it through. Religion must be held accountable for the rape, the abuse, the neglect and the loathing it holds for women. Religion must be punished for the horrible things it does. We must work to eliminate religion from the law, and send it back the the darkened corridors of churches, and take back the power for all women, and their right to be human. We can’t stand by and watch the humiliation and degradation of women at the hands of brutal and sick men, who care nothing about their well being.